WHEN: The Subsequent Choices meeting is scheduled monthly, and meets by request depending on who is interested in attending. We ask that if you're interested in attending, you email firstname.lastname@example.org to confirm that you'd like to attend on the scheduled date.
WHO: Any person who wants to participate in a conversation about pregnancy, adoption or surrogacy following a loss at any gestation. We try not to cover this topic extensively in our bereavement meetings out of respect to those who may not be ready to discuss another baby. If you are contemplating pregnancy, trying to conceive, beginning the adoption process, or pregnant and craving support, we welcome you to participate.
WHAT: Subsequent Choices meetings address the ways in which grief affects the journey towards another baby. Fear and hope coexist daily. One feels “different” from other parents anticipating a little one. In these meetings we explore where we stand: on pregnancy, on hope, on grief, on fear, on anticipation.
ABOUT THE FACILITATORS: Carol McMurrich, who lost her first daughter to a cord accident in 2003, went on to deliver four healthy babies in the next seven years. Each pregnancy was fraught with worry and drama, real and imagined, yet lit from behind with the most sincere and lifesaving hope. Walking this journey with families is one of her greatest privileges.
Lexi Walters experienced two miscarriages within a year's time, Lexi muddled her way through a beautifully healthy but emotionally complicated pregnancy with her son Arlo in 2010-11. Her wisdom and experience bring wonderful layers to the conversation.
Our principles, below, are the best way to communicate the shared values that are upheld at group meetings, as well as to give you a sense of what to expect from participants during the course of a given evening. Strict confidentiality is expected from all group members, and participation in the discussion is optional.